There’s this misconception that being a strong advocate means being loud. Confrontational. The kind of lawyer who raises their voice and uses threats as tools.
That’s not who I am.
And it’s not what works.
Civility isn’t a compromise. It’s a strategy. And it’s one I use every day to get results for my clients.
I Don’t Posture. I Prepare.
I’m respectful in my approach because I know the file is strong. I stay composed because I know the facts. I don’t argue for the sake of it—I advocate where it counts.
Because here’s something I see over and over:
The attorneys who yell the loudest usually have the weakest cases.
That’s not advocacy. That’s insecurity dressed up as toughness.
Real Strength in This Work Looks Like:
- Knowing the facts better than the defense does
- Delivering clean, credible documentation that’s hard to dispute
- Staying calm when things get tense
- Earning the trust of adjusters, defense attorneys, and mediators—not burning bridges
Anyone can bluster.
But the people on the other side of the table—insurance reps, opposing counsel, judges—they know the difference between noise and substance. And so do I.
What Civility Gets You That Aggression Doesn’t
Here’s what thoughtful, strategic professionalism actually delivers:
- Better rapport with opposing counsel: People take your calls. They respond faster. They engage in real negotiation.
- Credibility with decision-makers: When you’re calm and direct, your arguments carry more weight.
- Efficiency: No unnecessary escalation. No theatrics. Just results.
- Respect: Even from adversaries—because they know you’re not bluffing.
No one wants to negotiate with someone who’s trying to prove something.
They want to work with someone who knows something.
A Real Example: Quiet, Firm, and Effective
Not long ago, I was negotiating with an insurance adjuster who was dismissive of the case and, more importantly, disrespectful toward my client.
I didn’t raise my voice. I didn’t threaten. I held my ground, calmly and clearly.
When the adjuster started making disparaging comments, I drew a firm line: either they came up to a reasonable settlement figure, or I was filing the case.
They didn’t. So I did.
No fanfare. No theatrics. Just doing my job.
And not long after that, they started increasing their offers—quickly. Eventually, we reached a settlement that was fair, appropriate, and absolutely in line with what my client deserved.
Head down. Stay the course. Don’t get ruffled. Get results.
If You’re Worried That “Nice” Isn’t Enough—Let Me Be Clear
Kind doesn’t mean passive.
Civil doesn’t mean soft.
Respectful doesn’t mean ineffective.
What it means is:
You can trust that your case is being handled by someone who doesn’t need to shout to be heard—and who doesn’t waste time trying to prove something that isn’t backed by the facts.
Clients Deserve More Than Performance
My clients don’t hire me to play a role.
They come to me for results, not noise. For strategy, not ego. For real advocacy, built on real work.
And that’s exactly what I bring to the table.
Let’s Talk—No Ego, No Drama, Just Clarity
If you want someone who will advocate fiercely without turning your case into a performance, I’d be glad to connect.
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There’s more strength in civility than most people realize.
And it gets results.
